I promised an update a few weeks ago with details about the process of selling my house. Which, by the way, is official. I am no longer the owner of the sunshine house. She is now sharing her light with a new family. (That’s her below.)
This was my first time selling a house, so I wasn’t sure what it would be like. Would it be easy? Difficult? How long would it take? I had no idea.
And, what I can tell you is I made a choice from the get-go that orchestrated the most graceful, easy experience. I’m still stunned when I think about it. I can’t help but smile from ear-to-ear when I look back over the last few months.
That choice was: I decided to surrender the process to Spirit—to get out of my way and let Life do her thing. To NOT control the experience, but to be in flow with what was.
In today’s blog, I’m sharing the results of this subtle, yet powerful decision, as well as how I walked through it in case you want to test out your own surrender experiment and have your mind-blown too!
It all started with a book recommended to me by my coach—The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer.
It’s the first book I’ve read in a long time that I could NOT put down. I’m serious, I’d be out at dinner with a friend and think, “I can’t wait to get back home and read this book.”
Who was I? I’m not an avid reader. In fact, reading tends to make me fall asleep; thus my love of Audible. But, for some reason, this book had me hook, line and sinker.
The Surrender Experiment was demonstrating an entirely new way of being in the world—one where Grace was at it’s foundation, instead of control, struggle and fighting reality. It felt like it was speaking to me on a deep level and inviting me to play in a way I never considered. In a new realm of possibility.
One of the primary principles of the book is the idea that Nature doesn’t mess up. That She has an innate knowing for what is needed and will best serve. All we have to do is allow Her to do it.
And, that idea set up the rules for my game—the game of selling my house. With this, I decided to run my own Surrender Experiment.
What I did was deceptively simple. I set intentions for how I’d like the process to unfold. Things like:
I intend for my tenant to find a new place a week before her required move-out date.
I intend for very little repairs so we can list the house in a timely fashion.
I intend to sell the house quickly with grace and ease.
I intend to list the house by xxx date.
I intend to have only one thriving open house.
I intend to know exactly what price to list it for.
I intend to receive multiple offers.
I intend to sell the house above asking price.
All of these intentions and a few more were formed and released to Spirit—including, this or something better for the highest good of all concerned.
See, that’s the part I struggled with in the past. I wanted it to be my way, so I didn’t actually let go and flow with what was. I tried to control the experience in order to hold onto my vision.
This time was different. I whole-heartedly let go and trusted.
That didn’t mean I didn’t have moments of doubt and concern. “What if the house doesn’t sell quickly, then we’ll fall out of escrow on the new house we want! What if we don’t get our asking price? What if the renter can’t find a new place in time? What if???”
And, each time those thoughts came up, I reminded myself of another principle from The Surrender Experiment—I am not my thoughts. If I can hear them and see them, then they, clearly are not me. They are just my ego-referenced thinking, my chattering mind, that I don’t have to accept as true.
I practiced this time and time again. Reminding myself to trust that Life has my back. That no matter what, I would be ok. I would sell my house at some point. And, if we fell out of escrow on the new house, then that house wasn’t meant for us and we would find something even better. What I discovered was that I could relax in God’s hands.
Every single one of my intentions came true. My tenant got out early. The repairs were minimal. I was able to list by the date I wanted. I was so clear about the price of the house—even the list price had significant meaning. We held one open house and had 51 people come through. We received three multiple offers over asking price. And, the rest is history.
Needless to say, my mind was blown.
Could it be that simple? Could Life really know better than me?
My answer to that question is yes. And, I actually find a lot of comfort in that. I don’t have to know all the answers or do it all on my own. For me, that is radical!
You now know what I did and the results that came out of my internal and external actions. Maybe you feel inspired to test out your own Surrender Experiment? Boy, if you do, I’d love to hear your results. And, if you have questions about what I did, you can share those in the comments below.
May you experience the tremendous gift of allowing Life to lead.
By: Amber Krzys
Over the summer I had the privilege of attending a workshop led by the most elegant, feminine and authentically powerful woman named Nancy Kline. Being in her presence was a highlight of my life. I mean that sincerely.
Nancy (above in green) has built a career supporting people in thinking for themselves. Her work is profound and meaningful – and something I am deepening in within my life.
In our time together she shared about her latest book called – Living with Time to Think: The Goddaughter Letters. This book is a series of letters she wrote in response to three important questions her goddaughters asked her.
One of the letters touched my heart so deeply (I had tears streaming down my face), I wrote Nancy to see if I could share that letter with YOU. I’m grateful she said yes. Below you’ll find the chapter titled Every Wrinkle.
Here’s a short excerpt:
“I wonder whether you have decided to love every wrinkle, to see each one as a sign of increased beauty. I wonder whether you actually love each one…And I wonder what it would take for the whole world to love them, too.
We need old women to show us how to be beautiful.
I tried out that idea at Cosmopolitan once…”
I’m leading a FREE call next week to continue exploring this topic of body and beauty.
In my experience, nothing tests the loathing to loving scale more than summer time and bathing suit season. Just the idea of showing our perceived body flaws really brings up some stuff. And, this free call is about supporting you in moving through that stuff so you can experience a summer of FUN and FREEDOM.
I remember the first summer I spent NOT feeling concerned about what I looked like in my bathing suit. Not worrying about what others’ thought of me. It was an incredible experience – that is available to YOU too.
If you want what I’m talking about, then, sign up for this free event at www.feelgoodinyourbikini.com. By the way, reading this article is a requirement for attending the call!
By: Amber Krzys
As a coach, I think it’s important to work with a coach…and my coach, Michelle Bauman, is brilliant! She shared something with me a few weeks ago that I keep coming back to. I keep deepening into it and even, sharing it with my clients.
It’s so valuable and poignant I want to share it with you. She said:
“I once heard Caroline Myss say that what causes people unhappiness is chasing after a life that’s not theirs. It was so powerful for me to hear that – and it got me so much more curious about what is MY life – MY path – who am I called to serve – who are my people to coach. Who do I want to spend my life energy with? Who is asking me for my help? etc. I’m so much happier and more fulfilled when I’m true to my own calling. And I’ve spend plenty of time looking at what others are doing – attempting to use what they are doing to inspire me to “go bigger” or “do more” etc. And, it’s an interesting process to discern what is inspiring in others, what triggers my own ego desire to be “special” – and what does my heart truly want.”
She’s talking about the courage to live YOUR life. Not someone else’s. And, not the one your ego tells you you should live, but the one your heart expands into.
Doing this is a courageous act. And, it’s not like you do it once and it’s done. You get an opportunity to choose it every day. In every aspect of your life – in your work, in your relationships, even in your body.
Are you chasing after a dream that’s not yours?
I certainly have in my past – especially when it came to my body. I was chasing a dream of a body that wasn’t mine. A body that wasn’t possible for me. And day in and day out, I lived in a torturous cycle of punishment, guilt, shame and embarrassment. I considered myself and my body a disappointment…and, it totally sucked.
I just kept holding onto the position that if my body were different, my life would be better. That when I was taller, thinner, with larger breasts and no cellulite, THEN I could wear a bikini. Then I could find love. Then I could wear skinny jeans.
I thought a thinner body was the key.
I didn’t know it then, but I was missing out on so much. I was not only missing out on all that body was and could do. I was missing out on the beautiful relationship that exists between she and I now. I was missing out on experiences and pleasures. I was missing out on life.
If you are reading this and thinking this IS me too. That you are chasing after a body that’s not yours, then I invite you to slow down, take a breath and join me for a special event I’m hosting:
I’m leading a complimentary call for you. On it, I’m going to be sharing more about what I did to stand in MY body. To fully own HER – and care for her…and ultimately free myself so that I could stop missing out and start living full out!
I’ll also be opening the line for individual coaching – meaning, you will have an opportunity to work something personal and specific to you.
If this sounds like something you want to be a part of, click the link below and enter your name and email address on the form on that page. You’ll receive all the call-in details – including the date, time and call-in number after.
And, if you don’t want to be a part of it, that’s totally fine too. This is all about you attuning to what YOUR heart wants.
I’m excited to connect with you on the call so, together, we can explore how you can open your heart to YOUR body and live your life more full out.
PS: Operation Feel Good 2015 has begun! It’s not too late to be a part of it, hop on here.
By: Amber Krzys
Recently I’ve been traveling quite a bit, speaking across the country at colleges (shout out to NAU, NIU, KSU, & UTC). Something happened during one of these trips that I wasn’t so proud of. It was something I did that served as a reminder that there are always opportunities to deepen in our compassion and loving for ourselves and others.
Here’s the scene: It’s the end of a long day of travel – one that began hours earlier and ended later than it should have due to weather and delays. I’m tired and cranky and just want to get to my hotel.
This particular plane was small, so I had to valet check or pink tag my bag. If you’ve not done that before it means you drop your carry-on bag at the gate and pick it up at the gate when you arrive at your destination.
So, I’m in a line full of people waiting for their bags along the gateway. Two lines have formed against both sides leaving a space in the middle so that people exiting the plane can get through. We are all waiting impatiently. It’s like 1 degree – literally – and everyone is cold and ready to get on with their evening.
I look up and see a man stop right in the middle. I think “Is he planning to stand there and wait for his bag? Not a good idea. He’s gonna block traffic. What’s he doing?”
He proceeds to stand in the middle. People are trying to get around him and he isn’t moving.
After a little while, he finally heads back to the front and stands in the spot where our bags – ok, my bag – will be dropped. Now, I’m starting to get frustrated. It seems like such common sense to me. “Get out of the way! What a total jerk!”
(You see, I had lots of compassion and loving for this man in this moment! Not!)
An older woman across from me was watching the man too. She seemed curious about him (whereas I seemed totally annoyed)…so, when he walked back into the middle again, she asked him one simple question: “Sir, do you need some help?”
The man replied by shaking his head yes. He said, “I usually have a wheelchair meeting me. I’m not used to all these people and I’m not sure where I’m supposed to stand.”
(Face palm. Who’s the jerk now?! That would be me.)
Then he says – stuttering a little bit: “I’m recovering from a concussion, so my thoughts don’t work like they used to.”
(OMG – now, I feel like a total a**hole!)
I made so many assumptions about him because I was so concerned about myself. About my own crankiness and getting out of the cold and into my hotel room. I immediately applied some loving kindness to myself – as a few parts of me wanted to judge me as a total jerk and an a**hole. And, I knew those kinds of judgments don’t help at all.
Then I looked for the learning – which was a beautiful reminder that the stories that go on in my head aren’t true a lot of the time. The assumptions I made about this man or make about anyone, including myself for that matter, aren’t usually true. And, the only way to know the truth is to find out by asking. Which is what that beautiful woman did – “Sir, do you need some help?”.
Simple. Loving. And full of compassion.
I was so grateful to witness this kindness. To see it modeled so beautifully in front of me with such ease and grace.
And, I’m sharing it with you today to remind you as well. When you next find yourself in a heated or annoyed state, ask yourself – is what I’m telling myself about this circumstance true? 100% true? Then see if you can find an opening for a little more kindness and compassion.
Kindness wasn’t my first response in that moment – and, that’s ok because I’m human AND I got a valuable lesson out of it.
If you have a story where you maybe weren’t your kindest and most loving self – you are welcome to share about it in the comments. That way I won’t be the only one! And, I invite you to share your learning from that experience too.
Thank you for being here and being a part of this community.
PS: Operation Feel Good 2015 starts on Sunday! If you want in, hop on here.
By: Amber Krzys
I’ve been traveling for speaking the last couple weeks – which is always fruitful for sourcing good writing material. The thing I’ve witnessed and been most struck by on this trip is courage.
I think it’s easy in our culture to downplay courage. To make it not count. There’s this idea that courage only counts when it’s grand. That you have to save someone from a burning building or put your life on the line.
But what about the courage it takes to live YOUR life each day? To say no – even when it might hurt someone’s feelings? To ask someone on a date and risk rejection? To show up in all of your uniqueness (aka weirdness – we all got some) and be YOU?
I think the most courageous act you will make in your entire life is – to be YOU.
In my travels this last week, I’ve experienced students – inspiring students – willing to do that. Willing to take a stand for their humanity and share their vulnerability.
Northern Illinois University created a Self-ie Perspective gallery – where students took unfiltered selfies and shared their stories about how they pick themselves and their bodies apart. There were hundreds of images and stories posted along the walls – so much TRUTH in that room.
I actually got teary-eyed walking through the gallery. I saw these gorgeous, fresh-faced young men and women standing in their vulnerability in order to serve each other and their community.
I also walked away even more committed to supporting you in feeling good in your body. In discovering the sacredness and sweetness available to you right now – in the body you have.
Beauty and ugliness are two sides of the same coin – meaning, you get to choose which side you want to fuel. No one can force you to flip the coin without your permission. Not society, your friends, your parents – no one. You have a say.
The students below from Northern Arizona University took a stand for their bodies last week. It was such a treat to witness them flip that coin and discover something good – even great – about the body they have.
I invite you to do the same. Whether it’s finding the courage to love your body a little more or to risk telling someone the truth – choosing YOU is where it’s at!
Take a moment and finish this statement in the comments below:
If I were just 1% more courageous, I would…
If you like that stem sentence and want to deepen in your answer, I’ll be speaking at a special event on March 14th in Santa Monica where the foundation IS this question. The #CatalyzeCourage Summit (hosted by InHerShoes) will bring together high school girls with professional women from diverse industries and backgrounds to provide a safe space and launchpad for the girls’ freedom of expression, assertion of passion and pursuit of possibility in every aspect of their lives.
Many of these girls are either first generation students, from underprivileged backgrounds, or are receiving significant amounts of financial aid to pursue their education.
It’s an incredibly exciting day and you can read more about the Summit and how you can attend here.
So looking forward to seeing your answer to the 1% question!
Supporting you in being more YOU today.
PS: Operation Feel Good 2015 is coming up! If you want to join in the fun and be a secret agent spreading joy, hop on the waitlist here.
By: Amber Krzys
I was recently talking with a client who courageously shared with me how uncomfortable she is talking about money. How when it comes to the point in a conversation where it’s time to share her fees – she feels herself shrink and freeze.
I so get it. That used to be me. In fact, I suspect that’s probably a lot of us.
Money is such a complex and taboo topic. We play such an interesting dance with it in our culture. We are programmed not to talk about it. So, we learn to keep how much we make, how much owe, how much we have, to ourselves.
Which would be fine – except this includes keeping our money story to ourselves as well. All of our judgments, beliefs and fears about money end up bottled up inside too – which likely creates a misunderstanding inside that ends up getting in our way – especially when we are trying to make more money!
This misunderstanding is where the issue, or better stated, the opportunity resides.
The story I’m about to share may not seem related to money, but I promise you it very much is – if you hang in with me.
Back in 2008 I set out to see if it was possible to love the body I was given. I’d spent 20 years hating the skin I was in – participating in diet program after diet program – only to end up feeling disappointed, angry and like a failure.
For the first time in my life, I was open to something completely different. A new approach – one that wasn’t about changing my body, but was about appreciating and accepting the body I had.
This was not an easy decision. Inside of myself I had collected 20 years worth of evidence proving there was something wrong with my body – so setting out on this new path felt scary and impossible. And, at the same time, I knew I needed to change. I was so tired of the results I was getting – of the life I was living. So, I was willing to try. I was finally ready to take new and different action.
I spent a year in inquiry – getting to know my body. I slowed way down. What did she want? What did she need? What foods made her feel best? What exercise? Did she trust me to care for her?
I started to think of myself as being in relationship with my body. Then I started to get really curious about what that means. What does a successful relationship look like and how I could I bring that to my relationship with my body?
What I discovered change my life forever. The result was/is more peace, joy, freedom and confidence – not only in my body, but in my life. This concept is now one of the foundational principles of bodyheart.
So, what does this have to do with money…
Let’s fast forward a couple years when I found myself $44,000 in credit card debt. (Hello panic!) It was the end of 2012 and I was feeling hopeless and helpless when it came to money. It seemed like no matter what I tried, my struggle with money was ever present. I never had enough.
And, given that money is a subject we don’t talk about, I was harboring a lot of shame and judgment about myself. I felt like a fraud. If you looked me up online, it looked like I was doing really well – and yet, I had this dirty little secret.
I found myself constantly asking, “how did I get here?” I wasn’t spending frivolously. I was simply trying to make ends meet – but, I never seemed to have enough money.
Can you see a theme here? One similar to my body story?
In this case, I had collected evidence to prove how awful I was with money, how money was never there for me, and how struggle just seemed to be a part of my DNA. This was my story – and I was tired of it.
I remember emailing my coach after having a windfall of money – for the first time in my life I made almost $20K in two months from my own services, only to have that money “taken” away due to unexpected home and car repairs.
In my email to her, I was so angry. I found myself saying: “Why does this always happen to me? Just when I feel like I’m getting ahead something like this happens to take it all away.”
I will never forget her response…she said: Dearest Amber: Have you ever considered applying a treatment plan to your relationship to money – similar to the way you did with your body?
O.M.G. I was floored.
That had never occurred to me. It never entered my consciousness that I was replaying the same pattern – instead of my body being the enemy, it was now money.
So, I went back to what I knew…
I again started by slowing way down and paying attention. I spent time with myself and got curious about money. What were my judgments about it? What did I learn about it growing up? What did I make it mean about me? What did I make my debt mean about me? What did money need from me? What did I expect from it?
Internally, all these irrational beliefs came to the forefront in the most beautiful way, and I got to see them, be with them and ultimately heal them.
At the same time, I started taking new and different action externally. Instead of practicing denial – which I was pretty much mastering when it came to my debt – I started facing it. I made a regular practice of looking at it – appreciating it for all the value it provided. I did the same for the money in my checking account.
I started to care about money the way I cared for my dogs or my body. I started to treat money with respect and more like a friend than an enemy.
I was so committed to healing my money story and experiencing true abundance that I made what felt like a HUGE investment at the time – I joined my first coaching group designed to support me in growing my coaching business. It was the biggest leap I had made in my life in a long time – and it was 1000% worth it.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but that decision pretty much put an end to my story of struggle. I chose to work with women who had thriving practices and were financially successful so they could teach me exactly how to create that for myself. I didn’t have to figure it out on my own – I just had to follow their leadership and guidance.
I had no idea how that program would impact my life. Before the six month group completed, I cracked six figures! And am set to double that by the end of this year.
I feel like a whole new woman – because in a way I am. I have a whole new operating system inside.
Changes like this require internal and external action – a mindset shift AND a behavioral shift. I was so ready, willing and committed to this change on every level. And, what I’ve learned along the way has been mind-blowing.
I now have a deep experience of my own resourcefulness. I know I will never have to worry about money ever again. And, that is priceless.
I have a new understanding of what it means to be of service. In the past my idea of service involved self-sacrifice – that I was supposed to give even though I wasn’t meeting my own needs. Now, I so clearly see how much more I can really help someone – how much more fun it is – when I take care of my own needs first.
I’ve let go of pleasing and trying to get people to like me. I’ve let go of this idea that I’m taking advantage of someone by inviting them to work with me. I am confident in my fees and the value my clients receive when we work together. And, I’ve learned what it means to be a true leader in my business and life.
Choosing to invest in myself and in my business was the catalyst to this transformation – which I am beyond grateful for. The gifts from that decision continue to unfold. And, for me, transformation is so much richer when it’s shared with others. When there’s an opportunity to support someone else in experiencing the freedom that I’ve experienced…
Which is why I am inspired to lead my first ever coaching group for professional women in the Coaching Immersion Adventure – or, the CIA. (I love spy movies and always wanted to be a part of the CIA – so, now I am. Plus, I like to infuse fun into everything I do!)
This group is designed for 10 female coaches who are ready to build a thriving practice, heal their money story and reframe their relationship with service and leadership – so they can make a bigger impact on the world.
There are only 5 spaces left.
If this program speaks to you and you feel inspired to learn more, email email@example.com for more information and next steps. I’m committed to talking deeply with everyone who’s interested in this group – and only offer spaces to those who will truly get value from participating.
I share this personal experience for your inspiration – to remind you of what’s really possible when we are ready to choose it.
By: Amber Krzys
The last few weeks have been full of such goodness.
I spoke at Southeast Missouri State University and Penn State University.
Such incredible students at each event. Next week I’m headed to Virginia Wesleyan College, and then settling in for Thanksgiving. I still can’t believe it’s just around the corner!
My favorite event was for me. It was spending the day with Danielle LaPorte and her friends – Linda Silverstein and Justine Musk, as well as a group of highly-motivated, loving women.
My heart left feeling so full and alive – like anything is possible. Because, anything is possible. (2015 is all about my book. I am finally courageous enough to make it happen!)
To quote “This is Where I Leave You”, one of my new favorite movies:
“Anything can happen. Anything happens everyday.” (Tweet It!)
Slow down for a moment and really take that in. Anything can happen. Anything happens everyday.
This means YOU can create anything you want – as long as you get out of your own way. The latter is the tricky part for all of us.
Which is why I’ve created something to support you in doing that – getting out of your own way. It’s super fun, free and inspired by one of my all-time favorite shows – Alias!
It’s called Operation Feel Good. I launched the first mission last spring and had such a blast that I’ve decided to bring it back for a special Holiday Mission this year.
Basically for 15 days, you become an agent for feeling good and spreading joy. And, you get entered to win prizes for it too! Pretty cool, right?
There’s zero pitching or selling in this experience. It’s truly a gift from my heart to yours.
I can’t wait to see you over there.
By: Amber Krzys
Over the weekend I assisted my coaches at a workshop they led for professional women.
These three days were powerful and transformative. The women who attended got so much value, including myself.
One of the exercises they shared I found particularly poignant – so much so that it has inspired to me break some rules! I love breaking rules, don’t you?!
In essence the exercise is asking yourself two questions:
In order to have what I want, what do I need to do more of?
In order to have what I want, what do I need to do less of?
Obviously, the first step is dreaming into and getting clear on what it is you want and then from there, answering the questions.
Given this weekend was about work, here’s some of what I wrote:
Trusting MySelf & My Inner Guidance
Making Requests / Submissions
Writing (for my book!)
Connecting and Serving / Being Out in the World
Following what’s Fun
Beating Myself Up
In reviewing these lists, and choosing to honor myself and my values, I have decided to make a change in my email correspondence to you. In the past I did my very best to connect with you every Wednesday.
Starting today, I’m only going to write when I have something I really want to share with you. Something I consider highly valuable, inspiring, transformative and so on.
I’m no longer committing to a particular day of the week or frequency, like all the online business gurus say to do. Nope. I’m doing what feels good to me – and trusting that is the most powerful choice I can make.
I’m giving myself permission to break the rules.
Now, it’s your turn. I invite you to slow down today and consider what you want – in your life, in your work, in your relationship, in your body, etc. In a way, the more specific the better.
Then, ask yourself the two questions above – What do you need to do more of and then less of to have what you want?
Feel free to share your lists in the comments below.
I hope this process is as impactful for you as it has been for me.
See you sometime soon, I’m sure.
By: Amber Krzys
One of my Core Desired Feelings – a la Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map (Don’t know what this is? Click here. You’ll thank me later!) – is …
Photo Credit: Catherine Just
I want to feel adventurous – in all aspects of my life.
For me, adventure includes experiencing new things and stepping into the unknown. Having moments of exhilaration and freedom!
So, I make it a point to ponder regularly – what would feel adventurous? How can I bring more adventure into my life?
This last week I got to experience that with one of my amazing clients. We’ve been working together for almost six months – and had never met face-to-face. She’s based in a different part of the country.
A few months ago I shared my desire to create more adventures with clients – and she lit up as much as I did. So we set up a special VIP Day just for her – a day specifically designed for her and what she needs to crack open to the next level. A day where we got to work and play and experience delicious moments of joy, freedom and healing together.
That day happened last week and it was awesome! I’m still buzzing from it.
We started off at one of my favorite places on the planet – Sheila Kelley’s S Factor – where my client got to experience (for the first time ever!) this type of feminine movement…a whole new way of moving her body.
And, she rose to the occasion. She was so courageous – stretching beyond her comfort zone, facing her fears and, ultimately, letting her body be.
It was an incredible gift to witness.
Then we continued our dance into the world with a tasty and nutritious lunch spent leisurely and luxuriously by my pool. Hello October sun! One of the perks of living in Southern California.
We closed the day in front of the big white board – big dreams and visions deserve a big blank canvas to create upon.
We dove into her next steps in her business and life – where we both had our eyes and focus on what she wants and how to make it happen. She walked away with a clear plan of action and I walked away with a burning desire to create more experiences like this one.
More adventures with clients and groups – connecting in person. Honestly, I think I’m addicted and can’t wait to stretch into this new playground even more.
I share all of this with you today as food for thought. Maybe even planting a seed for a future play date with YOU?
I don’t know. I’m open to exploring and seeing what unfolds…
For now, I’ll leave you with two questions:
1. How do you want to feel most often?
2. What can you do to support yourself in feeling that way?
I invite you to share both answers in the comments below. I’d love to see your creativity in action – and hold in your vision right along with you.
Feeling how you want to feel is more possible than you may think!
Light ahead to owning your feelings and co-creating an even more beautiful life.
By: Amber Krzys
I shared a story at a recent live workshop that really made an impact on the women who attended. I’m getting so much feedback about it – I’m passing it along to you.
I’m a fan of taking stock and setting new goals and intentions at the New Year. I’ve done it for as long as I can remember. And, I remember years – at least five years in a row (if not more) – writing down the EXACT. SAME. THING…
A body I love.
To be making six figures.
To be in a loving, respectful romantic partnership.
Basically – Body. Money. A Man.
I wrote this over and over and over. And, every year I set out to “get” those things – doing pretty much exactly what I did the year before even though it didn’t work!
I went looking for “the one” – the one diet program that would change my body. The one online program that would teach me how to make more money. The one man that would be the perfect fit and make all my dreams come true.
I often found myself saying: “Maybe this exercise program/money book/man will be “the one” to give me everything I’ve always wanted.
And, every time I came up empty; thus, repeating the same exact cycle year after year after year.
This pattern continued until I stopped looking for the one “out there” and started looking at the one “in here.” I was the one – and didn’t even know it! I had been blind to it for years.
I slowed way down and started to get to know myself and my body. And, that was the first step and ultimately the choice that broke the chain of Body. Money. A Man.
Once I healed my relationship with my body and opened up to a kinder, more loving way of being with myself, my life vastly improved and it was so much easier for the money and the man to appear.
This is why I created the Rock Your Body Challenge. It’s not just some woo woo sweet idea – it’s not some luxury or “nice to have”. This is about your relationship with yourself.
This is THE relationship that frames every other experience in your life.
I want you to have the guy and trip and the career – but let’s be real – you and I both know if every time you look in the mirror you go “gross/disgusting/ugly”, if every time you slip on a pair of jeans you say “I’m fat” and other mean things to yourself – it doesn’t matter what goodies (money/partner/adventure/new shoes) show up in your life – you are still going to feel like you’re not enough.
I know it seems hard/crazy/scary/weird/impossible – and that’s ok. That’s what I thought too. But you know in your heart I speak the truth: If you are at war with your body – your life will NEVER feel as fun and fulfilling as it would if you loved your body.
I’ve been thinking about the transformative power of love. When we love things, they don’t stay the same – they transform. So we try to hate our body into changing – and it never works. We love it conditionally (i.e., only when we are a certain number on the scale) – and that doesn’t work because conditional love isn’t love – it’s approval. (Tweet it!)
But when we truly love something it transforms. Sometimes it transforms physically and actually looks different and sometimes the way we experience it transforms – but it doesn’t really matter which. Love changes things. Period. We know this experientially. We know babies fail to thrive and literally can die if they aren’t loved. And, even though we “know” this intellectually – we don’t act like it – especially when it comes to ourself and our body.
You know, the diet industry is a multi-billion dollar industry. Not multi-million. Multi-billion. It’s entire job is to keep you feeling insecure and not enough – so you keep looking for the ‘fix’ out there in their products.
I wonder what the world would be like if the self-love industry were a multi-billion dollar industry? Where we actually put our resources and commitment in learning how to support ourselves in a loving way.
Would we be kinder to ourselves and others? Would we have more compassion and generosity? Would we have more time? More creativity? More abundance? More freedom? More fun?
If you’d like to find out, please know I will walk with you every step of the way. I will share with you everything I know about how to change your relationship with yourself. You can count on me to be there with you no matter what. You can go as slow or as fast as you like – and we’ll walk this together.
If this sounds good to you, I invite you to join me in the Rock Your Body Challenge – starting this Sunday October 12th. (It’s virtual – so you can partake from the comforts of your own home!)
There are only 5 spots left. If you want one, I recommend taking action ASAP – as the course will sell out.
This program won’t open again for a whole year. So, I ask – do you want to spend another year writing the exact same thing on your New Year’s list? That answer is completely up to you.
One possibility…you could sign up for the Rock Your Body Challenge right here and start transforming your entire life today.
With tremendous love and compassion,
By: Amber Krzys
The Sizzle Kit was a welcomed ‘pause’ in my day! Everything about this course is just fabulous! My daughter says she has noticed a huge difference in me since I started working on this program 6 weeks ago ~and I am hoping she commits to it sometime soon!